FEAR OF FAILURE:
Fear of failure is another emotion that holds people back from filing for divorce. You would be surprised at the number of people who come into my office and advise that they've held onto their marriage simply because they don't want to have failed. However, if you think about it differently, recognizing that your marriage is over, or that the two of you need to move on, is the exact opposite of failure. Doing so allows you to be a champion not only for yourself but for your family, including the children you are raising in a now stale marriage. People who rescue themselves from the grips of an emotionally trying marriage haven't failed. To the contrary, they have excelled in making their happiness, and that of their family, the main focus of their lives. I don't call that failure, I call it turning fear into power when happily ever after fades away.